Life With Sulis

Clutter Lives: I got this in my email (if you wrote this and you want me to delete it please email me at digitalsulis@cox.net) It is from same group I wrote about earlier. This little testimonial hit nerve. It was the fact of my life for so long. It hurts just to read it. Thinking about all the damage that was done. Doing my best to correct that now but sometimes I wonder if it even makes a difference to some people. Somepeople don't ever believe. But thats oOK! I know the truth and that is the most important part. Either they will or they won't figure it out that things have changed, either way it doesn't change anything for me other then makeing life a little more difficult having to fight against years of built up resentment and anger. I hope these words will help you get yourself out of this spiral if you are in it before you do to much damage to the people and things that you love. Join the group here. Flylady.net

Dear Friends,

Why do we torture ourselves with our clutter?

You know exactly what I am talking about.

We have piles everywhere. Stuff we are going to need one day and we
might not be able to afford it then. So we had better hold on to it.
Do you hear this "Oh Poor Me" attitude.

This stuff is going to kill you. Are you listening to me? All the
piles of clutter are filling your life with guilt and this guilt is
hurting your body and spirit.

I have found that many of our members suffer from chronic illness.
Immune diseases: Stress and guilt are contributors to these illnesses.
My mother has had Rheumatoid Arthritis for 20 years. I have studied
this disease and it is a result of an immune system going crazy. Many
other diseases have the same basis: Fibro Myalgia, Lupus, Thyroid
problems, and some types of diabetes. There are colds, flu, sore
throats and allergic reactions that are also caught because our
immune system is not working well.

The stress that is in our lives from our clutter, our chaotic homes,
and our hectic lives is slowing and painfully killing us. Are you
prepared to die this tortured death? Do you want to sit on the
sidelines while your husband and children enjoy life without you,
while you sit home and suffer with this clutter draining your life's
energy.

This clutter pushes your family away. Your home should be a safe
haven for you and your family, but when it is cluttered all of you
find ways to be away from home. You dread walking in the door to face
this wall of stuff and undone jobs. Let's face it, It is guilt. So
you enroll your children in extra activities, any thing to get away
from this guilt that surrounds you at home. You all know what I am
talking about. With our lives filled with this clutter, we are unable
to have anyone over.

You all know the C.H.A.O.S. Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome. This
pushes the people we love away. It also keeps us from taking care of
things we need to have fixed: Leaky faucets, heating problems and
stopped up drains. We are ashamed to have anyone in the house to fix
them, because of our clutter. I had one member that would not call an
ambulance because she was too afraid that if they saw her mess, that
the drivers would report it to Dept of Social Service and they would
take her children.

What are we doing to our children? They are growing up in a home that
they are unable to have their friends over to play and do school
work. They don't want anyone to see how they live. They are
embarrassed by their home. Do you know what happens, they end up
playing at someone else's home and you won't we fully aware of their
activities or even worse you keep them secluded in their own home.
You are keeping secrets and these cluttered secrets are going to be
the death of you and your family.

Now let's look at our marriages. We have insulated our lives from the
love that we need to survive. The clutter puts stress on our
marriage. I don't care how strong your love is, clutter whether it is
your husband or yours is stealing the affection you have for one
another. Fights, harsh words and even abandonment have slipped into
this once loving relationship. Do you want this? Are you ready for
Peace?

This is a decision that we have to make. If we want to live in a home
that is not conducive to love: I mean love of self, love of husband,
love of children and love of God: Or do you want to clear your
clutter so that the love that is in your life can bloom and grow.
Right now you are living a life of fear.

Fear is the opposite of love as far as I am concerned. God is love;
Fear is of the Devil: Fear of being without, Fear of not being
understood, Fear of not being loved. Fear is lack of faith in God.
The Devil puts this fear, guilt and worry into our lives. He puts
these obstacles in our path, so that we will not find the peace we
deserve. He wants us to suffer. Do you want him to win? Put your
faith in God and get off your Franny and start to get rid of this
clutter.

I have given you the tools: All you have to do is listen and start
with small jobs. I don't expect you to get it all done at once, but
you have to start somewhere. Many members need to see results
immediately; this is our nature. If we don't, we give up and go back
to our slovene way of life.

I am here to tell you that your home did not get cluttered over night
and it is not going to get clean in one day. We are working on
changing life long habits; this is going to take some hard work and
consistent routines. It will not be a cakewalk, but as you start to
see progress, you will want to go gangbusters.

This is something that we have done to ourselves many times. We work
till we are burnt out. Then we don't want do clean or declutter
anymore because we are so tired. This kind of turn around in your
life is like going on a crash diet. You get the house clean and
before you know it, the place is trashed again. We are putting our
homes on a diet: A diet of behavior modification. I am teaching you a
new way of cleaning and it starts with establishing routines one
habit at a time and decluttering your home 15 minutes a day. Anyone
can do this: Mothers with children, Members that work out of the
home. It is so simple; you just have to start.

Are you tired of living this way? You must be, or you would not have
joined our group. Kelly and I can't help you, unless you want to help
yourself. We can't come to your house and tell you what to get rid
of, as much as we would love to be able to physically assist you. All
we can do is hopefully touch something deep within you that will get
you away from the computer and the TV, and begin your new way of
looking at your life. WITH NO MORE GUILT!

You have found the answer. It is within each of you. Your clutter is
suffocating your true spirit. If you will release this clutter, you
will find the peace and health that you have been yearning for all
your life. It is not just a matter of wanting peace. We have been
WANTING all of our life. This is a matter of actively working toward
our goal of a clean and peaceful home. You can do this by using the
tools: Your routines, basic weekly plan, zone cleaning, 27 fling
boogie, the reminders as well as all of mine and Kelly's Rants on
Attitude adjustment.

Are you willing to work? Ask yourself if you ready to get your Franny
out of that chair and change your life. We don't expect you to do all
of this right off the bat. You are only expected to get dressed to
shoes everyday, keep your sink clean and shiny and declutter for 15
minutes each day. This is it. Anyone can do this!

I want for you what I have, PEACE. I received this PEACE from my
routines. You have all read my testimonial. If not it is on the
website. It takes time and effort on your part. This is not a magic
pill I am giving you. It is a recipe for Peace and you are the
Chef. So let's get ready to for the biggest feast of all: A
celebration of your love of God, Self, Husband, and children. Enjoy
the preparation. It is not a chore; it is a gift of love!

It's Time for you to FLY!

FlyLady

posted by digitalsulis @ 3:55 AM