This night I have had a wonderful conversation about beauty and perception. I believe because I am a larger then average woman people tend to think of me in a certain way which is not necessarily true. I tend in my own eyes to look down at myself because i am not the beautiful 18 year old i am in the picture on Tals home page. This makes me very sad because it effects my sexuality in ways I cant even describe. It erodes at my confidence in so many aspects. But where did I get this idea of what I should look like. Where did it come from and is it valid? I mean I am told over and over by men and woman that I am beautiful and not to worry about my weight, but honestly when i look in the mirror I dont see beauty. Can someone tell me why and how this horrible perfect image of myself i hold up as what i SHOULD look like came about. Can a woman short of killing herself trying to achieve this perfect image get past this problem and see the beautiful woman in the mirror others tell her she is?
Men, How important is looks to your decisions on who to date, marry, mate with? Where does looks and weight actually fall in the criteria for a partner? When you look at a woman naked and she is overweight or one breast is larger then the other or any other of a million things that the human body can have wrong with it, does it effect how you feel about that person? Would you stop dating a woman you find mentally attractive if you see her naked for the first time and she was in some way disfigured in a way you didnt realize through her clothes?
i guess that is enough for now. Sweet dreams and all that sulis
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