Life With Sulis

Happy Turkey day~!

posted by Anonymous @ 8:09 AM 0 comments

About beauty...
I am an odd person. After a time of knowing someone, I don't see them in a purely physical way anymore. I begin to see them from the inside out. This can help or hurt them of course :) I have known physically attractive people who were repulsive to me because of the inner person. And I have lusted after someone who I was shocked one day to find had a hideous acne- I never noticed.

So for me (who is NOT thin etc) I figure the only people who really count are the ones who mean something to me. And if someone will reject me in what ever way without knowing me- they were not worth my time and too shallow anyway. I would not want to be involved (in what ever way) with someone who only valued another human by the outward appearance they have.

How do I feel about me? I am fat. No doubt about that. It is my fault and someday I will do something about it. So no I dont want to go to nude beaches but who says I would if I looked like a super model? I think those urges (showing off) are over for me anyway. I don't worry about it too much. I am healthy. Beyond that it is just asthetics. I have a nice face. And I know for me that is SOOO much more important. (I would rather be fat than ugly.. at least I can lose weight) So most of the time, I feel pretty good or indifferent about my appearance. Some days I feel fat. But it passes when I see an unnatractive lady with a nice body ;) Or even a pretty woman being mean to her kids.

I got them beat hands down and so do you Sulis.

Judge ye not by the mirror but by the love.
I believe love abounds in your life. Look there.

posted by Anonymous @ 7:36 AM 0 comments

Just a quick note while I am in between jobs here. thanks to everyone that has joined the team. There are a couple of you who haven't quiet spoken up yet but I hope to see you jump in on the comming topics. I invited all of you because of your varied backgrounds and ideals. So please don't be afraid to speak your piece. Jump up on that soap box if you will. I dare you! Evil giggle

This night I have had a wonderful conversation about beauty and perception. I believe because I am a larger then average woman people tend to think of me in a certain way which is not necessarily true. I tend in my own eyes to look down at myself because i am not the beautiful 18 year old i am in the picture on Tals home page. This makes me very sad because it effects my sexuality in ways I cant even describe. It erodes at my confidence in so many aspects. But where did I get this idea of what I should look like. Where did it come from and is it valid? I mean I am told over and over by men and woman that I am beautiful and not to worry about my weight, but honestly when i look in the mirror I dont see beauty. Can someone tell me why and how this horrible perfect image of myself i hold up as what i SHOULD look like came about. Can a woman short of killing herself trying to achieve this perfect image get past this problem and see the beautiful woman in the mirror others tell her she is?

Men, How important is looks to your decisions on who to date, marry, mate with? Where does looks and weight actually fall in the criteria for a partner? When you look at a woman naked and she is overweight or one breast is larger then the other or any other of a million things that the human body can have wrong with it, does it effect how you feel about that person? Would you stop dating a woman you find mentally attractive if you see her naked for the first time and she was in some way disfigured in a way you didnt realize through her clothes?

i guess that is enough for now. Sweet dreams and all that sulis

posted by digitalsulis @ 6:36 AM 0 comments